Peace Out 2018, Hello 2019!

It’s finally the end of 2018, and thank God for that! It has been quite the year. I’m not going to lie to you, 2018 has been a challenge for me. There has been a lot of ups and downs, mostly downs but hey, that’s life and I want to keep it 100 with ya’ll.

I’ve learned a lot of hard lessons this year, mainly with the people I surround myself with. After struggling with major anxiety at the end of 2017, I was forced to really re-evaluate everything. I realized a lot of the people I was surrounding myself with were not helping my anxiety, but actually hurting it. I used to be the girl that wanted everyone to like me (and I guess in some ways I still am). I wanted to be best friends with everyone and looked past people’s actions and made excuses for them. This year I learned that I need to be a little more selfish. I’m not going to like everyone and not everyone is going to like me, and that is okay. I also need to realize that when people show you who they really are, to listen. It’s amazing when you go through a hard time in your personal life, the people that are true friends really shine. To all my supportive and amazing friends and family, I just want to say thank you. You guys have really helped me through one of the hardest years of my life and I am so grateful.

While I struggled with anxiety at the close of last year and the beginning of this year, I worked really hard to try to overcome my anxiety. With the help of therapy, meds and a lot of self work, I’m really happy to say that I am in a much better place than I was a year ago. My tips for those of you who are struggling with anxiety are to take it a day at at time, meditate, exercise and surround yourself with people that support you.

This year, I also made a big move. I left Los Angeles, a place I called home for the past four years, to move back to New York. I honestly never thought I would move back here, but here I am. I can’t tell you how happy I am to be back, and I’m looking forward to the next chapter of my life here in NYC. I’m ready to take on the city more than ever and have my Carrie Bradshaw moment (minus the whole getting left at the alter sitch).

I also started a brand new business in 2018. I opened up my own online boutique, John + Suki! This has been a huge dream of mine since high school and I can’t believe it’s finally live. I’m so excited to continue to grow my business in this up coming year and make it even bigger and better!

Now, I’ve never really been a big New Years resolution type girl but I do have things I want to work on this year. Growing John + Suki is definitely #1, but I also want to continue to work on myself. I want to workout more, eat healthier, travel more and love more. So bring it on 2019, I’m ready for ya!

Last Minute Christmas Gifts

Christmas Gifts

If you’re anything like me, you’re a procrastinator. This season the holidays have seriously crept up on me. Like it’s in a week. Can ya’ll believe it??  I still haven’t done all of my Christmas shopping yet so this post is just as much for me as it might be for you. Here are some gift ideas that I have broken down for all the people in your life.

For the Beauty Lover

For the Techie


For the Fashionista

Happy shopping!

What I Bought During Black Friday / Cyber Monday!

Black Friday

Who doesn’t love a sale? I am a sucker for anything that says it’s on sale! My friend Grace and I went to Ulta and Target on Black Friday and surprisingly it wasn’t that crowded. But we did get some amazing deals at Ulta! The rest of what I got was online because it’s the 21st century and I’d rather shop online in my pajamas than go to the mall. Since I got some amazing deals I wanted to share these with you before the day was up, in case ya’ll wanted to pick up some of these items yourself!

ULTA – certain items on sale

 

Abercrombie – 50% off everything!

Love Wellness – 25% off everything

Gut Goodness Set – Lo Bosworth created this line of feminine care and I can’t wait to try these!

Rodial – 30% off everything

Vitamin C Cleansing Pads – I’m reading a book by the founder of Rodial so I wanted to try this brand out. Plus my friend swears by it!

Avocado – 40% off everything

Fire Leggings – Honestly the best workout clothes ever.

John + Sukieverything is on sale!

 

What did you guys buy? Let me know in the comments below!

 

I Opened an Online Boutique!

Wearing the Alice Tuxedo Romper

Guys. I have the most exciting news I think I’ve ever shared here…I just launched my own online fashion boutique!! The name of my boutique is John + Suki (www.johnandsuki.com), named after my parents.

Opening up a boutique is something I’ve been dreaming of since I was in high school. And now I’ve finally done it! So obviously I wanted to share it here with you because I love you guys. Oh and I’m giving ya’ll 20% off any purchase this week using the code FAMILY20.

So now onto the fun part, the clothes! Here are some of what you will be seeing on my store.

Wearing the City Living Sweater

Wearing the Merlot Slip Dress and the In The Wild Leopard Jacket

So there is your sneak peek at what’s in store! I hope you guys love the stuff as much as I do! Now go on, get shopping!

 

How to Afford a Healthy and Fit Lifestyle

A large aspect of maintaining a healthy lifestyle is knowing how to properly manage your money, which can be hard for a lot of young adults who are just learning how to budget. Living a healthy lifestyle requires going to the gym or hiring a personal trainer, which can lead to your body feeling healthier and stronger. When walking through the grocery store and seeing fresh fruits and vegetables, you know you should eat them, but you might end up avoiding them due to the higher prices. So, what is the solution? Read these tips below to gain some inspiration on how you can maintain a healthy lifestyle for little cost.

Limit Eating Out

When you’re living on a tight budget, one of the worst things you can do is eat out multiple times a week. This includes ordering a coffee from a café, going out to dinner with friends, or simply ordering lunch on the go. Any of these can put a significant damper on your back account and probably aren’t great for your waistline either. Save yourself a lot of cash by cooking healthy meals at home. It’s all about finding the right recipes that include healthy ingredients you love and that won’t take you forever to make.

Plan Your Meals Ahead of Time

After going to the grocery store, prepare your meals for the week ahead of time,  using reusable snack bags of course, to limit the amount of money you spend when you are out and about. Knowing that you already have a meal prepped for the day reduces your impulse to buy something at a restaurant. Plus, by planning ahead you can ensure you’ll always have a healthy option available when hunger strikes.

Know Where Your Money Is Going

While maintaining a healthy lifestyle can have a strain on your finances, it’s important to gain control of your spending in other aspects of your life. If you’re able to save money elsewhere, you’re more likely to be able to afford to contribute to your well-being. Analyzing your monthly payments will give you a better understanding of how much money you spend per month. If you have a cell phone bill that could be cut down because you’re not using as much data as you thought you were, switch to a cheaper plan. If you have a student loan that could be reduced for the time being, consider refinancing your college loans to lower the cost. Additionally, explore your current subscriptions to magazines, music apps or tv show software’s, like Netflix or Hulu, to determine if you actually need or use them as often as you thought you would.

At Home Fitness

Working out is an imperative part of keeping your body healthy and strong. Without fitness, your body suffers in a variety of ways. Other than paying an outrageous amount of money to go to a local gym or for a fitness trainer, there are other alternatives to getting a workout in with little to no cost. By using online sites, like craigslist.com or ebay.com, you can find used gym equipment or weights that are of good quality for an affordable price.

If you want to stay away from workouts that require equipment, search for a great workout video on YouTube! Whether you are a beginner or advanced fitness junkie, you can find a variety of videos to choose from on this platform for free.

Using the Nike Training Club App is another fantastic alternative for an intense at home workout. By simply pressing the download button and creating an account, you can accomplish hundreds of workouts in your living room, and again, at no cost!

Looking for more healthy living inspiration? Check out my most recent food related posts here!

 

Weekend Reading #45

Shirt: Brandy Melville {similar} // Pants: 12th Tribe // Shoes: Forever 21 // Necklace: Uncommon James

1. Where to donate all your old things.

2. These are the best healthy spots in NYC – definitely going to all of these!

3. This Venice house is seriously decor goals.

4. Honey, peach and brie panini?! Yes, please.

5. How to find cheap flights.

6. How to lose that stubborn belly fat.

7. Do you make your bed everyday? This is what it says about you.

8. These people are retiring as early as in their 30s. 

9. Sugar could be contributing to your anxiety.

10. Does your cellphone really need to be in “airplane mode” when you fly?

 

Dating Advice from Relationship Expert Carla Romo

dating advice

Is it just me or does dating in the 21st century suck? After a couple failed relationships I’m currently single and ready to mingle. But with that, I wanted to get some help and I know many of you probably do as well. That is why I reached out to my friend Carla Romo, a dating and relationship coach to ask her some questions. I also asked you guys on Instagram (follow me @esthercollins if you aren’t already) for your juicy dating questions for Carla to answer. So let’s get into it!

How do you know if someone is “the one”, especially if you are the type to question everything?
At the end of the day, it really depends on 2 things. 1. Your gut feeling. Even if you are not much of a spiritual person, if it feels intuitively off, then it probably is. If it feels right then it probably is. 2. You will know because they match what you want in a partner. This means sticking to your non-negotiables. If you find yourself making excuses for a characteristic that you find unacceptable then that’s a red flag. Lastly, questioning things is not a bad thing. Although, it is important to explore in depth why you are questioning it. I discuss a lot with my clients whether it’s fear that makes them question or a legitimate concern.
Is sex on the first date bad?
No. It is important to figure out what you feel comfortable with and then honor your boundaries around that. If you want to or you don’t want to have sex, follow it!
Everyone is flawed, but how do you know if you’re just seeing past their flaws or if you’re forcing it and just not compatible?
Are you painting the red flags green? What helps my clients is to write a very detailed list of their non-negotiables. Example: Must be financially stable, not have a history of cheating, etc. From there you can compare your list to this person’s flaws and see if you are justifying their behavior to fit around them.
Best ways to make long distance work?
Have a strong communication plan and end goal to be together. Communication is important and needs to be consistent. Discuss what each other’s expectations are around how you are going to communicate. Also, it is important to have a goal of when you plan to end the long distance. It’s ok if you don’t have an exact date but having an idea of how you will eventually be together is key.
Can your significant other have a best friend of the opposite sex without it getting awkward?
Yes, they can! Although it is important that you ask yourself why it feels awkward. If it’s because your partner is not respecting your boundaries then that is important. If you find it is your own insecurity then it creates an opportunity for you to grow within. Regardless, you should communicate any concerns with your partner and take ownership of your part in it.
I’m moving to a new city, what’s the best way to start dating and meet new guys?
Join fun coed groups or activities that interest you. It may feel a little uncomfortable but discomfort just means you’re growing. Don’t pass up an invite to your new friends birthday or dinner party. Putting yourself out there and meeting other like-minded people is a great way to get connected with new guys are date-worthy.
Carla Romo
There you guys have it! I hope some of these questions help you in this dating game, because it sure is helping me! If you guys have any other questions for Carla and would like another post, leave your questions in the comments below or you can DM me!
Carla also puts on amazing events where she gives out her great dating and relationship advice, for more information check out her site https://iamcarlaromo.com/.

Weekend Reading #44

1. What happens if you drink collagen for 21 days straight?

2. Ways to sleep better on a plane.

3. What to do in Nolita.

4. High serotonin filled foods to eat.

5. Why we shouldn’t bring our phones into the bathroom, I am guilty of this.

6. How to actually get 8 hours of sleep a night.

7. Coconut cream chia pudding, yes please.

8. What to know about preventative botox.

9. Meghan Markle’s wellness routine, sign me up.

10. All the NYFW popups open to the public.

 

Weekend Reading #43

1. These foods help fight belly fat.

2. I need to go to these restaurants at the Almalfi coast!

3. Fun things to do this summer by yourself.

4. The best ways to manage stress.

5. Julia has THE CUTEST back patio for entertaining!

6. I love seeing house tours, including this one!

7. What’s the best way to remove body hair?

8. 5 basics that every girl should invest in.

9. Art hanging mistakes and how to avoid them.

10. Wedding guest outfits that make the bride cringe.

 

 

Weekend Reading #42

Shirt: Lulus {similar} // Jeans: American Eagle // Belt: Gucci // Sunglasses: Burro {similar}

1. Recipes to reduce belly fat.

2. Do crystals work for everyone?

3. There is a $2 section on Amazon, say what?

4. How to get stains out of everything.

5. A genetic test could help determine which antidepressant to take.

6. How to prevent wrinkles when traveling.

7. What Carrie Bradshaw’s apartment would look like today.

8. Hacks for better sleep.

9. Instagram hack for more likes.

10. Smoothie ingredients that help you lose weight.